Episode Transcript
[00:00:01] Speaker A: Have you ever felt like something was holding you back?
Like something stronger than fear?
Almost a primal instinct to not take action?
Well, I'm here to tell you that very well could be your witch's wound, which is an ancestral, inherited trauma. And today we're going to start to heal it.
So on today's video, we are taking a deep dive into the witch's wound.
What the heck is the witch's wound? It's so interesting, when I have brought up this term before, how activating it can be in the body.
[00:00:58] Speaker B: Right?
[00:00:59] Speaker A: We'll see that some people are like, well, yeah, cool. Which. And then others are like, whoa. Like, slow your roll, Nancy. What are you talking about? I'm not a witch. Okay, so the witch's wound has nothing to do with being a witch. It has nothing to do with witchcraft, but it has to do with is the collective rooted trauma that we as women carry in our bodies because our ancestors were persecuted. Okay, I've got notes here. You guys know I always have this. So we have gone through centuries of persecution when it comes to just being a woman. So this has created this primal fear when it comes to showing up, when it comes to getting paid for our services, when it comes to sharing our gifts with the collective.
[00:01:58] Speaker B: Okay?
[00:01:59] Speaker A: So this is something very, very deep rooted within us, and it's having a severe and substantial impact on us as women, especially business women.
Okay, is this something that you're relating to? I would love to hear in the comments if this is something that you're connecting to. If you are a woman who has felt a call on her spirit to step into serving the collective, but yet find yourself struggling with trusting yourself. So maybe we've got some over analysis paralysis going on. We're struggling with the fear of saying the wrong thing. I'm going to say the wrong thing and upset someone, or it's going to result in my rejection.
Okay, is this you? I'd love to hear that one. Are you a rejection? Are you over analysis paralysis? Share with me. Maybe we're self conscious and we're afraid that if we put ourselves out there, we're going to be ridiculed. And we can't really handle that type of ridicule because we're already struggling with insecurity.
Is that. You put that in the comments for me as well.
[00:03:18] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:03:19] Speaker A: The witch's wound affects us all differently, and because of this, we're going to be showing up in our wounded energies differently.
So let's talk about some signs that you're struggling with the witch wound.
[00:03:34] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:03:35] Speaker A: So you might experience it as a fear of being too visible, like you're afraid of being seen.
[00:03:41] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:03:42] Speaker A: We hesitate in speaking our truth. We worry about being judged for our spiritual gifts.
[00:03:48] Speaker B: Right?
[00:03:49] Speaker A: We feel self conscious.
We feel. Maybe we'll say. We'll chalk it up to being shy, but yet in the right environments, we're not shy at all.
[00:03:59] Speaker B: Right?
[00:04:00] Speaker A: So it's this fear of I'm going to say or do the wrong thing, and there's going to be a catastrophic consequence. This is really what it all kind of boils down into.
I want to take you back to my own story when it comes to the discovery of my witch's wound and how it impacted me, and I want to know if anyone can relate to this. Okay? So I'm going to take you all the way back to when I was a child. I was about seven years old, and I started having memories of. Of a man who I had never met in an environment that I knew I had never been in. And I knew that I loved this man very much, and he loved me very much.
And I didn't understand these memories. I couldn't understand why I would have memories of something that I know could not have happened. And so I struggled under this. I struggled under this fear that there was something wrong with me. I knew I shouldn't talk about these memories, and I didn't understand them. So I had no one to talk to about these as a child.
And then I also had on this other side I didn't understand. Who is this man? Why did I feel such a deep love for him? Why would I literally sit in front of my nightlight and cry and ask, why did you leave me here? I don't want to be here. I want to be with you. Where are you? I don't understand what is happening.
Okay, so this happened throughout my childhood, this feeling of, I don't belong here, something is wrong. I'm having memories of other things that I really shouldn't even have memories of, that I can't explain, that I don't feel safe talking to other people about.
And I feel like I have been abandoned. I have been abandoned by this man that I deeply loved, and I'm now with this family that I don't feel loves me or wants me or accepts me, and I feel isolated and alone. Okay, so this is a very common experience.
Not maybe the memories, but that feeling of isolation, feeling like we don't quite fit in with our environment, like we can't quite make sense of the other human connections. It's like we're always on the outside looking in, trying to understand, like, why. Why do they get each other? Why do they have that kind of relationship? But that isn't for me. Can you relate to this? I would love to hear again in the comments if you can relate to that, because this means that you most likely have a wish wound.
[00:06:40] Speaker B: Okay.
[00:06:41] Speaker A: You came in with this, and you're here to heal it.
So as I went through this journey of these memories and trying to understand what they were and feeling this deep longing for this love of this man that wasn't here, I eventually started looking for that level of love and acceptance in the wrong places when it came to the masculine in my relationships.
And so what I find interesting as I look back now, was this pattern of self abandonment. So the witches wind really is based around the fear of betrayal and persecution.
Abandonment is in there as well. If you think about it. Like, you know, as these women were betrayed, they felt incredibly alone. And because they were alone, they had no one to advocate for them. They experienced a very savage torture or death. Okay, so when we think about this, this is kind of like the root of the witch wound. It's rooted around persecution, betrayal, abandonment.
So this is why we protect ourselves against this when it comes to people pleasing. Fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, etcetera. So as I went through these relationships, I would self abandon in an effort to try to get the type of love that I knew existed because I had felt it with this man and these memories. Okay, so this started me on a path at a relatively. I was a young age, around 18 years old, of putting myself in relationships and circumstances that were not safe for me. And so they would subconsciously perpetuate these feelings of abandonment and betrayal. A lot of times when we have a witch wound, we will find that we are subconsciously attracted to people that have narcissistic tendencies, people that really want to use us because of our innate gifts and abilities. There's a level that other people see it within us, but we downplay ourselves because we just want to feel accepted, like we fit in with the Muggles, but we don't, right? So we'll abandon, we'll diminish. We'll not say no when we need to say no or want to say no. We'll go along with stuff. We'll try to. People, please. We overextend ourselves, etcetera.
[00:09:23] Speaker B: Okay?
[00:09:24] Speaker A: So as this went on in, into my twenties, into my late twenties, I eventually got to a point where the self abandonment had a massive and catastrophic effect on my life. It completely turned my life upside down. And it wasn't until my early thirties that kind of, like, the dust had settled from that experience that I started kind of remembering these memories from childhood. Because as I was getting older, I just started kind of suppressing them and trying to ignore them and, like, they weren't real. There was nothing I could do about them, right? I couldn't talk to anybody about them, not. Not anybody. I never felt safe talking to anybody about them. Has anyone else ever had memories like that? Or they're like. I know. Or, like, abilities. Maybe you see ghosties. Maybe you speak to spirits. And it's like, I can't tell anybody because, you know, who knows? Who's going to come cart me off kind of thing. Like, this massive fear of, like, oh, my gosh, everyone's going to think that, like, I'm crazy or I've lost it or I'm a weirdo, right? I would love to hear, is that you?
So, in my early thirties, these memories started coming back, and I got very, very curious about them. At that point, I had recognized that because of those memories, I had made a lot of wrong turns.
And now that they were coming back, I felt like there was an invitation to allow those to help me recalibrate. And so I started digging in. I actually started researching past lives. I learned about twin flames. I learned about astrology and the connections of karma and all of these different things. And I finally had a past life regression.
Well, through that past life regression, I was able to tap in and tune in more to the memories that I had had as a child.
I learned that the man, his name had been Michael, and he had. Excuse me, he had been called away to fight in a war or battle and left me when I was pregnant to go do that. And so I had been. In that past life, I had been someone who had kind of been on the watch list. But because he had status in the community, people kind of, like, left me alone, right? They don't want to mess with Michael because he had power. And so that. That kept me safe, in a way. But the longer he was gone, the less safe I became, until finally the community thought he wasn't coming back, and they came for me.
So as I. As I was getting all of this clarity around so many different things, I was like, wow, okay, this is starting to make sense. It's actually, what, for those that can see the video behind me, these books, that's what inspired that book series that I wrote. The first book is called Witches Wound.
It's about that experience and about reconciling with the loss of that man and the hopeful journey towards reconnecting with him in this lifetime if it's meant to be.
So that's what that book series is about.
So understanding what happened in this past life was very eye opening for me because it made me recognize where this fear of abandonment really came from. I also was able to piece together a connection that even though I grew up in a whole family, my parents were together, they still are together. They were both present ish.
In my childhood, my dad worked a lot, and my mother struggled with her own things. We'll just say that. And so that environment and that energy was activating to this abandonment fear, because my mother would emotionally abandon the wrong thing. She would withdraw support. She would withdraw emotional connection. She would threaten to remove any type of financial or stability support if we didn't behave or operate in a way that she wanted us to. And so this created a reality for me that things were very unstable. So I was always afraid that everything that I had was just going to be snatched up and taken away. And so this was a reason that in my romantic relationships, I was always the one to first, like, oh, fine, we'll just break up then, right when things were getting hard, because I was like, okay, they're gonna leave, right? So I wanted to head them off at the punch, right? Nobody's gonna stay. Nothing stable. So I was very defensive all the time, combative, fearful, stressed out.
I would find myself engaging in relationships where I knew someone was emotionally unavailable or would not be available, because I knew that that would somehow keep me safe from it. Getting to a point where I was afraid of the abandoned men, this is how this played out for me in my reality. And I share this, and I'm vulnerable with this, because we all are going to see it in different ways. And so through that and through that lens, this is why it's important for us to recognize what I refer to as our witch's moon archetype. This is something I have studied for years now at this point.
I started this work back in 2020. So for years, I have been studying the witch wound, applying my psychology background to it as well. And I created these archetypes, and they show us where the fear is. So, for example, me as a dragon archetype, my deepest fear is that fear of abandonment, because in that past life, I was abandoned, and there was a catastrophic result that happened because of it. So in this current lifetime, I chose a soul family that would play out a dynamic that would activate this fear of abandonment so that I would eventually move into a space of healing. Okay, so we'll see this with other archetypes. For example, my possum archetypes have this over analysis paralysis, this fear of I'm going to make a mistake. This impacts their businesses significantly because they're terrified of starting, they're terrified of failing, they're terrified of what's it going to look like. Am I going to upset people for doing this instead of taking the traditional route, etcetera. So the different archetypes struggle with different things.
And understanding the archetype is going to help us actually understand what happened in this past life. It's all connected.
[00:17:07] Speaker B: Hey, Nancy.
[00:17:08] Speaker A: Here. If you're resonating with this video, then I want to invite you to take my witch's wound archetype quiz. It's really, really quick. It's going to tell you what your witch's wound archetype is and give you some tips on what happened to the past version of you and or your ancestor. And understand how you can start working on healing that archetype and your witches wound. If you're interested in taking it a little bit further, be sure to also hop inside my sacred feminine program. You can find both linked down below. Okay, so once we can understand how we're showing up in these shadow energies, we're then able to get a clearer image of, well, what happened in the past that activated this. And this may not have been our own experience in a past life. If past lives are kind of. You're like, eek, and you're. Maybe I'm losing you here. This could very well be an ancestral trauma that you've inherited. We can have memories of our ancestors. They're. They're in our DNA, okay? So it doesn't really matter where it came from or how it got there. If it's past life or inherited from an ancestor, it's still in the body and it's still affecting us. System needs to be healed.
[00:18:21] Speaker B: Right?
[00:18:23] Speaker A: So through this healing, my notes again, we're not only able to heal ourselves, but we break these chains in our ancestral lineage.
[00:18:37] Speaker B: Okay?
[00:18:38] Speaker A: We're able to clear these.
I guess we could call them like, the ancestral curses. You know how people say this? Friends in my family, everyone's always broke, or everyone has this illness by this age, or everyone, etcetera, that comes from this inherited persecution wound.
[00:18:58] Speaker B: Okay?
[00:18:59] Speaker A: So when we go and do this intentional work to heal, not only are we healing ourselves and our own experience, but we're helping our ancestral line to have peace and closure. We're also stopping it from passing on to future generations.
Okay, so let's talk a little bit about what we can do to actually heal this. I think you understand at this point why it's important to heal. It's affecting our businesses. It's affecting our relationships. It's affecting every aspect of our life. Our worthiness, our money, our health. All of these beliefs that we've got stored in our body around our reality, they're being projected into the world for us to experience because we believe them. Right? How many times have we seen someone, maybe ourselves, experience a self fulfilling prophecy?
[00:19:54] Speaker B: Right?
[00:19:55] Speaker A: We're so afraid someone's going to leave us that we behave in ways that make it so people have to leave us because we're too toxic. I'll own that. That used to be me. Okay, so we fulfill these prophecies. I'm not good enough. I'll never be able to make money. So then we do things to sabotage our success and our businesses, maybe our jobs, our careers.
[00:20:18] Speaker B: Right?
[00:20:19] Speaker A: So we do these things because we believe that's the reality. And as long as that reality is truth in our consciousness, it will manifest as truth in our reality.
Okay, so here are the three action steps I want for you guys to take that I typed everything out today that I want you to take to start working on healing this deep, inherited wound. Okay? So the first step I talked about it a little bit is understanding the archetype. So I created a quiz. It's very simple. You can take it. It takes, like, two minutes. That is going to help you learn what your witches spoon archetype is. I want to invite you to take the quiz, and I also want to invite you to make sure to read the instructions when you go through it, because it's very clear we need to make sure that we're answering the questions from our most wounded perspective.
[00:21:11] Speaker B: Okay?
[00:21:12] Speaker A: So people read the answers, and they're like, well, I wouldn't do any of these things because they're reading them from a perspective in this moment right now, saying, well, I understand that all of these are toxic. I don't want to say that I do any of them. So we have to kind of set that part of us aside and really be accountable to ourselves and really be honest with ourselves and say, okay, in my most wounded not being my best self, how would I react in this situation? Because this is shadow work. This is allowing our shadow aspect to come forward, raise her hand and say, this is how I am self sabotaging our life.
[00:21:50] Speaker B: Okay?
[00:21:50] Speaker A: So we have to be willing to allow her to speak, allow her to step forward without any judgment of it or denial. Okay, so the awareness, a huge part in starting to heal this. How often have we found that when it comes to some type of action, maybe it's even. Here's an example. I used to be a competitive gymnast, okay? So trying to do a skill, trying to learn a new skill. You're going, you're trying, you're trying, and then you. You see it on video. Back then, it was like you actually had to have the cam for your sprite. I'm kind of sorry, that's my knee. We're kind of aging myself here. But you would see something, or you become aware of something. It's like, oh, that's what it is. And so once that entered the awareness, you were then able to apply what it is that you learned. And then it shifted everything. So I would learn, oh, I'm not extending my arms up all the way before I try to twist in my double twist layout. Okay, so it's like we become aware, and it's like, ah, I see it now. So this is a huge step in allowing for this wound to start to heal.
[00:23:09] Speaker B: Okay?
[00:23:09] Speaker A: So we want to make sure that we are acknowledging these things, though, again, no judgment. All that doesn't serve us. There's. There's no benefit of being in a space of judgment for how we behaved when we were trying to survive, okay? Only compassion.
So my note here, first step is recognizing with this moon is influencing your decisions and emotions. Hold space for yourself with compassion.
[00:23:35] Speaker B: Okay?
[00:23:36] Speaker A: So taking that quiz, understanding your archetype, getting, like, an idea. Oh, yeah, I do do that. Oops. We're then going to be able to recognize how that stuff is impacting our decisions, and we can start holding space for ourself with love and compassion and say, gosh, this isn't even mine. This is what I inherited.
How loving of me to be the one to heal this for everyone. Now I'm aware of it.
[00:24:03] Speaker B: Right?
[00:24:05] Speaker A: The second thing that we can start doing to heal is to implement some type of spiritual practice, okay?
Meditation, journaling, energy healing, something that is going to allow you to connect more deeply with this version of yourself and hold space for her.
[00:24:28] Speaker B: Okay?
[00:24:28] Speaker A: So if it's journaling out and saying, you know, I want to get to know you, using your imagination to feel into what could this version of me or my ancestors have experienced? Let yourself start tapping into those cellular memories. Let yourself start channeling, you know, where does our imagination come from.
It's not just out in the ether. It's from stored information in our DNA and channeled information.
So allow yourself to tune into that. Allow yourself to witness what it teaches you.
[00:25:06] Speaker B: Okay?
[00:25:06] Speaker A: You can do the same thing with the meditation. You can go in and trying to just clear your mind and open yourself up, say, hey, I'm here for you now. I want to connect with you. I refer to her as our wounded witch. Okay, I'm here for you now. Show me what you need from me so that we can heal and just allow. Allow for the information to come in. We want to make sure when we're seeking answers, we don't ever try to force it, okay? We just want to be open. Want to be open. And it'll, like, not often will come in that meditation. It'll probably come in a dream or when we take a shower later before bed, or when we're cooking dinner and we're not thinking about it. It's like, oh, my gosh. Like a memory will flash in your mind. You're like, whoa, this is explaining so much. So jot it down and then meditate on it before you get a bed so you get more right. Energy healing is important, too. We hold our witch's moon in our lower three chakras.
We hold them in the root, the sacral, and the solar plexus.
[00:26:12] Speaker B: Okay?
[00:26:13] Speaker A: I call it the witch's moon trinity. So we've got that wounding in this core center of us safety, the creativity, and how we express ourselves and our identity, which is the solar plexus. Okay? This is where that witch's wound lives. So if we want to do some intentional energy healing work on ourselves, maybe do some root chakra work, or sacral chakra and solar plexus chakra work, learning how to do some somatic exercises for those spaces on the body, as well be really, really healing.
And then the third thing that we want to do is we want to start to work on embodying our feminine power, okay? So we want to engage in activities that connect with the body, such as movement. I just started getting ahead of myself with the somatic movements and also practicing things like cycle syncing, syncing with the moon, connecting into Earth, like St. Earth magic. I really consider that just like gardening and herbs and things like that, being mindful of our nutrition, the nutrients that we're putting into our body, reconnecting back into the planet, really starting to allow ourselves to tap into what we've probably enjoyed as children. I don't know about anybody else. But when I was a kid, I used to, like, make potions, you know, in the yard when it would rain, like the mud and grass and the, you know, for those little onions, like the green onions that would grow in the yard and flowers, and I make some kind of concoction. You know, you can do that with your cooking, you can do that with recipes, but do something that really allows you to feel connected into creation and connected into a nurturing energy that's going to allow you to manifest and create something that's yours. So our feminine power is deeply tied to our bodies. Syncing your work with your menstrual cycle or practicing sacred movement can help you reconnect with that energy.
Okay, so what next?
We need to really work on healing this as a collective. This is why I created my sacred feminine program.
This program is the eight week program that walks us through the exact process to heal this wound and incorporates a lot of these things that I just shared with you. So obviously not everyone is going to feel that it's accessible to them to hop into that container. So please utilize these three strategies and really try to incorporate them into your life. For everyone else, I really want to invite you to take advantage of a special offer.
I have my sacred feminine program currently on special for the rest of this month at just 222. It's normally 888. What I'm doing this time is I'm doing something very special. You're actually going to get access to me. Normally when someone hops into that program, it's self paced. They go through it themselves when it works for them, hopefully within about an eight week period of time.
What I'm going to do with this is everyone who takes advantage of this special offer of 222. You're going to go through this with me. We're going to do it as a group starting in November, and we're going to support each other. So we'll do weekly group calls where we will cover the work that was done that week. You can share your experiences. Maybe you got stuck. Maybe you're not getting information that you're wanting. Maybe you're having trouble with something. Maybe something was tough to learn, and you need a community to share that with. That's what this is going to be for. I've had so many experiences when I have done this in the past where I've been able to go in and channel, and I've been able to see what happened to these individuals in the past and share this information and the confirmation they get in their body. The whole group we're all crying together because we're feeling the truth in this. We're feeling the release and the relief from learning and being able to put this version of ourselves to rest in peace.
So this is a very, very beautiful, transformative process. And so if you feel at all called to be a part of this, there's a link down below in the description where you can get registered, or if you want to just comment sacred feminine down below in the comments, I'll make sure that the team drops you that specific link and you'll see on that page a discount code that you can use. And everyone who uses that code will be able to access the group coaching aspect that starts in November. So I really, really hope to see you there and I want to just end this really quick with an invitation. So reflect on an area of your life where you have seen these types of cycles playing out. Whether it's sabotaging relationships, sabotaging money, blocking yourself in your business, playing small, holding back.
How has your witch's wound been showing up in your experience? I would love to hear about that in the comments where you're seeing it and what category you're seeing it play out. Okay, so if you're ready to dive deeper, comments sacred feminine and for everyone else, thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much for being here, for being in this space, for holding space for yourself and doing the deep, sacred work of healing. I honor you, sister. Thank you. And I will see you on the next video.
